The 10 Pounds in 30 Days Plan Went Bust: I Confess
25 Oct 2010 1 Comment
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See, wha-haa-haappened wuz…back on September 9th I went on a mission to drop 10 pounds in 30 days with no diet or fake food and no boring crap. The whole plan went straight to hell when I discovered a health problem and took action to correct it. I will spare you all the gory details but I went through a minor surgery (which didn’t seem so minor at all) at the end of September. Before that I had lost 3 pounds of fat. After, I don’t know. It looks as though I gained seven, but the doctor insists that this is water weight. I my mind I know he’s right because just the same as how the body can’t get rid of more than 1-2 pounds a week, the body can’t manufacture more than 1-2 pounds a fat per week, unless it’s a Supersize Me situation but still, I had a few resulting cookie episodes. I had to take it easy from all physical activity for 2 and a half weeks after the surgery, which kinda threw me off a little bit more.
So, here we are again. These things happen because this is real life. I’m back on the program because I want to slim down a little but also because I love the variety of foods and the exercise, well, is not just exercise. It’s all fun and games. (Yasmin unlocked some new songs on Dance Dance Revolution, woo-hoo!)
I don’t know whether I can lose 10 pounds in 30 days or not. But I know I can slim down and look fabulous in 30 days, but it might take a few more weeks to total 10 pounds, or maybe not, who knows? I’ve learned that this doesn’t matter. I was wasting energy worrying about something stupid that just causes unnecessary anxiety and a fall off the bandwagon. I decided a while ago that I am not willing to make any drastic dietary or exercise changes that I am not willing to reasonably keep up forever. However, I fully acknowledge and take into consideration that to lose weight requires that we intake less and exert more than maintaining weight does. But the difference between the two should not be drastic if I’m generally eating nutrient dense delicious foods and keeping my body moving.
The lesson learned: do the right things and skip the arbitrary deadlines and quotas. Motivation should not be found in a date on the calendar or a number on the scale, especially since the journey never ends there. I’ve found some super motivation (besides the good feeling) though. I’m dancing in a show in February. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t need to work towards a certain weight or size. The motivation is to get back down in that studio working on the most deliciously fantastic erotic tantric bellydance creation ever! Stay tuned for details, dates, invites. What’s YOUR motivation?
News Flash: Not all Black Women Wear Fake Hair
07 Oct 2010 Leave a Comment
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Ok, I realize that this is because of the terrifying profusion of fake hair being worn by my beautiful sistahs, and some women’s obsession with
long hair at whatever cost, be it monetary or beauty. Is it because of the movie “Good Hair”? I was horrified by that movie too. Before that film I had never seen a weave being applied either.
It is no secret that I can’t stand weaves and wigs. Mostly because they have tainted the whole idea of black women with long hair. I grew every single strand of these thick, luscious, nappy, long locs on my head from the follicles on my scalp. My hair is REAL. It didn’t come from some poor Indian woman’s temple or a horse’s ass. Believe it.
I’m obsessive about the products I use and care I take of it. I want it clean, fresh, and shiny at all times. I’m glad you like it but please know that there are black women with beautiful (and long) hair, oh yes, there are others besides me! Please do not automatically assume that some black woman’s hair cost a fortune or that she spends her days sitting up in a salon having it sewn onto her head. Consider that some of us just might have real hair.
Rowdy Gray Hairs: A Good Sign?
08 Sep 2010 Leave a Comment
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I was running late this morning. My excuse is that I woke up with a few too many gray straggly hairs around my hairline and I had to remove them.
I have nothing against gray hair. Salt and pepper locs are beautiful and distinguishing. But my gray straggles are strange, wirey, and like to party. The rest of my dark hair is (nappy) coiled tightly enough to display my ethnic African ancestry, which makes for luxurious locs and I like that. But the gray straggles are not coiled, not curly, not straight, not wavy. They are crooked. They are new and short so they’re not contained in my locs and they don’t know or care which way to go. They absolutely refuse to join the dark hairs in my locs in an orderly fashion. For those of you who know me, you know that I’m fairly methodical about keeping my hair neatly groomed and smelling fresh at all times. So you know why these little buggers are getting on my last nerve.
The gray hairs like to get down. They throw their hands in the air and wave them like they just don’t care. And they really don’t care!
So here’s what I was thinking. I do not have a problem with growing older. As a matter of fact, I look forward to the time when I can just say whatever and the hell I want out my mouth and act a damn fool and get away with it. People will say, “Don’t worry about that crazy Miss Lisa, she’s just old”… Maybe the hairs are just giving me a vision of what’s to come. I won’t be going with the other orderly old ladies to the church or whatever. I’m probably gonna stick all out, get all crooked, and wave my hands in the air and not care.
What is Tantra? An Informal Explanation
30 Jul 2010 Leave a Comment
in Beauty, Health, Inspiration, Sensual Spirituality
I have been getting this question a lot more lately, “what’s tantra”? Nobody wants to hear my well thought out and researched dissertation on the topic. They want to know what it is, what it means to me, how it could help them, in 90 seconds or less. So here we go:
Tantra is a way of life, a world view, and a spiritual practice that involves full and non-judgmental acceptance of self and the
full integration of mind (intellect), body (senses), and spirit (heart, connectedness to all of creation) into one unified being. So you see your whole self not as good or bad, but just as is. Tantra goes against the Puritanical concept that the physical body is dirty or sinful, and instead views sensuality (the senses – hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling, and tasting) and sexuality as inseparable from the spiritual self. In short, tantra is like sensual yoga. Tantra does not however, degenerate into the practice of hedonism, or overindulgence and irrational devotion to extreme pleasure. The idea is that passion and desire are pathways to experience a higher state of spiritual consciousness, or pure contentment. The practice of tantra, much like yoga, taps into subtle energies and moves them through meditation (both moving and still), visualization, and ritual to affect health, beauty, state of mind, and overall wellness.
Tantra does not require adherence to any particular religious beliefs, dogma, or rituals and rejects all forms of prejudice. The only required ideal is to live as a whole and authentic human being, without the exclusion of natural passion, creativity, enjoyment, and sensual perception in order to become and remain deeply connected with life. Tantra is not all fun and games. It is challenging in that you must remain “present” most of the time. To be present means to be unattached to the past or preoccupied with the future. The focus is on the here and now.
I originally sought tantra as a way to experience a new dimension to my bellydance. It turned out to be an effective means of anger management, greatly developed my sense of intuition, enhanced my sex life, and helped me to be a more effective parent. In broader terms tantra is very useful in stress relief, living a lifestyle that promotes wellness, emotional stability, more meaningful relationships, and general success in challenging endeavors.
I teach tantra workshops and provide coaching to individuals and couples. For more information see: LifeBliss Solutions.
THIN ≠ BEAUTIFUL, FAT ≠ UGLY!!!
03 Jun 2010 1 Comment
It’s so simple: Thin = thin. Beautiful = beautiful. Thin and beautiful are not opposites like (thin and fat) or (beautiful and ugly).
You can be thin and beautiful or thin and ugly.
You can be beautiful and thin or beautiful and fat.
Classifying fat people as ugly and thin people as beautiful is as ridiculous as the idea that tall people are dumb and short people are smart or that dogs are mean and cats are nice.
If someone who is ugly and fat loses weight but does nothing to become pretty they will still be ugly, just no longer fat. Similarly, if someone who is pretty and thin gains weight, they will remain pretty even though they have become fat.
So, please don’t lie to someone and tell them that if they lose weight they’ll suddenly become beautiful. And stop making beautiful fat women feel ugly.
I have already covered this topic before but a few weeks ago an old acquaintance was explaining that she felt out of place in a belly dance class, not because of her skill level, but because of the age and size of the other participants. She repeatedly told me that those girls were so gorgeous because they were much thinner than she was. The conversation bothered me and still does whenever I think about it.
This woman healthy and active, and has a voluptuous hourglass-shaped figure. She is also gorgeous, and she would still be gorgeous even if she were fat. She has pretty shiny hair, smooth olive skin, sparkling hazel eyes, and a smile that could foster world peace.
When are we going to stop this nonsense? Do not blame this on men or the media. Goddesses, we have the power to make this change ourselves right now.
On a Mission: Update
12 Jul 2009 4 Comments
in Beauty, Health, Inspiration
A few months ago I embarked on an adventure to focus attention on getting myself into fabulous shape and looking great, just in time for my 40th birthday. I lost a few pounds, and plateaued on that, but I gained a much clearer understanding of what it means to be healthy and look great at any age.
I quietly watched other friends and acquaintances and their efforts and actions towards feeling better about themselves and I came to the
conclusion that I needed to shift (but not lower) my expectations even more than I had originally thought. For example, I have been regularly eating a wonderful variety of fresh fruits and vegetables, along with other healthy choices. I enjoy moderate exercise and because business is beginning to pick up I just don’t have the time to work out the way I did last summer when I was able to spend hours a day at the local fitness center where I worked part time. I made up my mind that I can sustain my healthy eating and moderate exercise habit. I already knew and needed to be reminded that I am absolutely not willing to give up cookies for the rest of my life and thanks to a foot injury during workout boot camp I learned that crazified workouts are just not an option. I have a few friends who are petrified of getting older and how vowed to fight it at any cost. One of them has achieved a significant weight loss through an excessive obsession with gym workouts. She was never fat, and now she just looks thinner. She looks sturdier but she doesn’t look happier or more delicious. Similarly, a woman who works at the weight loss doctor’s office told me that she follows the terribly restrictive diet they recommend all week and only eats what she wants once a week. She is skinny as a rail and looks like a miserable human being to me. Her cheeks are sunken in and drab and she doesn’t smile very much. If I ate like that I wouldn’t smile either! Neither of these women look vibrant, enthusiastic, or content, which are all very important components to my idea of fabulous. Meanwhile, the changes I have made get me lots of positive compliments from strangers and friends. Lately, I have been hearing lots of comments about looking “glowy, peaceful, happy, sexy, like a newlywed”…and I like this. Conclusion: be healthy, and don’t worry because 5-10 lbs is not all that important at all.
Although eating cleaner (fresher, less processed) diet has not really resulted in fat loss for me this time around, it has led to a definite clearing of my skin. I have much smoother, clearer, softer, and more even-toned skin all over. I don’t wear foundation regularly and recently I stopped using face powder on a regular basis as well because I have no bumps to cover up. The sparkly bronzer I love is now just a little too much for me now because my color is great and I just don’t need that pick-me-up anymore.
As the weather finally warmed, I had to buy new clothes. I had all wool pants and fall tops in the closet. This time I really paid attention to creating a style, being comfortable but not opting for the commonplace. I rediscovered my favorite clothing store, which by the way, I never would have shopped at age 20 because it’s just too darned expensive. So the truth is, it is so much more exclusive (unique) than Gap or Target. You’ll think I shopped at a little standalone boutique somewhere. The clothes I am finding are not the typical cookie-cutter crap that you see worn on MTV. I buy items that have flattering cuts that don’t attempt to hide me, but just look great. I’m not keeping up with the teeny-bopper trends like those aging “Sex in the City” types. Oh yes, and I wear dresses! After all these years. I love the carefree no-fuss style that is not frumpy-hippie but sophisticated and versatile because it reveals a different kind of beauty that satisfies me.
What else have I been doing? You would never believe how simple. I just made a conscious effort at putting myself out there and being comfortable with it, in very simple ways. When I get a manicure, I just have the high-shine buff instead of nail polish. I took my sister Kelley’s advice on natural hair care and leaning more towards the clean, slightly tousled look for my locs. I relax in my backyard hammock whenever I get a chance. I enjoy wine and cheese in moderation. I flirt with my husband in public.
Many of these things I have done before. The truth is that you don’t just do a bunch of stuff and then one day be fabulous and have a “reveal” episode like in “Extreme Makeover”. You do things and constantly refine and shift them as needed, not with the corporate-inspired trends and continue to get better and better with time.
The Most Important Beauty Product
05 Apr 2009 2 Comments
in Beauty, Health, Lisa's Crazified Life
I love beauty products. I am sure I have done enough research about beauty products and makeup to earn a Ph.D. on the subject. I could spend all day in the beauty store and only come out to eat. However, when I find an excellent product I can stick with it unless something changes, unlike many cosmetics junkies who one day claim to have found the holy grail and less than a week later are on to something else.
The most important beauty product hands-down is sunblock. It is imperative to use sunblock every day because it prevents skin cancer, hyperpigmentation, burns, and the breakdown of skin cells that leads to permanent wrinkles. If you don’t want to look like a troll someday, you have no choice but to wear sunblock daily unless you never go outside. But I HATE sunblock! It smells bad, it is too thick and greasy, or, in the case of the nice mineral ones, leaves a chalky white cast on brown skin. I have exotic brown looking but normal/combination sensitive rosacea-prone pale red-haired Northern European acting skin, which is hard to protect from the sun. For YEARS I had been satisfied using Purpose Redness Reducing Moisturizer SPF 30, except at the pool or beach because it is not water resistant ( I have a different, thicker SPF 45 for that). All of a sudden this past fall this same product began to break out my skin with a crunchy red itchy rash. I stopped using it for a while since it was winter and my day job prevented me from seeing the light of day anyway. But now with spring arriving and longer days I tried it again, hoping maybe my face forgot about the abuse it took from that sunblock before. But no, the itchy rash is rearing up again, dammit! I asked my dermatologist(s) to recommend a sunblock that is:
fragrance free- lightweight and easily absorbed
- broad spectrum
- portable and sanitary–not packaged in a jar
- moderately priced
- gentle but not zinc or titanium oxide-only (because of the white chalky film)
- does not leave a shiny sheen
- SPF 20-30
- doesn’t burn eyes or stink too badly
- water resistant (ok- wishful thinking)
- can be worn under makeup
but they seem to find this topic way too boring. All they say is find an SPF 30 that I like. But here are hundreds of them!!!! Even the ones with the best reviews are horrible. Now I am hunting again. According to my research this time, which consists mainly from reviews by Paula Begoun, I have 3 good viable choices: Neutrogena Age Sheild SPF 30, Neutragena Active Breathable Sunblock SPF 30, or Ultra Dry Touch Sunblock SPF 30. I am headed to the drugstore today to smell, feel, and read the lables of the products. I am not in any way promoting these products. I am promoting the use of daily facial sunblock. I encourage everyone to find the right sunblock for themselves. I do however, recommend my most reliable beauty product information resource, Paula Begoun aka “The Cosmetics Cop”. Check out her website and books for comprehensive objective information on hundreds of makeup and skin care products.
On a Mission
04 Apr 2009 1 Comment
in Beauty, Health, Inspiration, Lisa's Crazified Life
This is my third week on the plan with the weight loss doctor. Just like before, it’s working. I am exercising too. On my way

So here's my BEFORE photo--Hahahahaha!
to the exercise class I saw some free books on a stoop, which is a fairly common thing where I live.
I spotted the Perricone Prescription book and scooped it right up. So many times I have contemplated buying that book but just never did. (Thank you, neighbor!) I had used some of the concepts from my previous shape-up a few years back when I got into the best physical shape of my life, since I was about 20. The eating plan I followed was basically the South Beach Diet with some Perricone ideas thrown in. I am never an advocate for silly faddish temporary “diet” plans. These are sensible guidelines for eating for great health, enhanced beauty, and reduced fat stores. The book provided a little inspiration. It provided another resource for my quest to be fabulous. It was a sign to keep going, I’m on the right track.
In less than a year I’ll be 40 years old. I don’t feel apprehensive about it the way I did about turning 30. I freely own my age thanks to the wisdom and authority is has brought me. I know everything. (At least that’s what my husband says). I do what I want and don’t give a rat’s ass what others think about it. I don’t feel any pressure or worry at all about turning 40, it is just another year. But just knowing how people typically react to a 40th birthday makes me want to start a new (well maybe not) project. Fabulous at 40. I think it will be so much fun to do my own mini extreme makeover. There will be NO surgical face lift and NO liposuction and I won’t be changing my style to look like a wannabe supermodel. It’s gonna be authentic Lisa, new and improved, and sustainable! YEAH! Of course this means I’ll have to have a party. Any reason will do.
Skin Detox: Foolish or Fabulous? By Paula Begoun
30 Nov 2008 Leave a Comment
in Beauty Tags: Beauty, beauty myths, cosmetics

A reporter from US News and World Report called me for an interview about toxins and how or if skin-care products could purge them from skin. I appreciated how this reporter framed her question; she asked if it was possible. Many reporters have bought into myths just like anyone else and start asking a question assuming something is true when it isn’t, not even a little. I was more than happy to have another opportunity to set the record straight on this overused, bogus term.
Much like any myth, if you hear or read about it often enough it becomes fact in the mind of many consumers. Once that happens they are eager to seek out the benefits of what amounts to little more than snake oil. Purging toxins from the body and skin is equal to the perceived need to drink lots of water (and often too much water) to keep skin hydrated. Neither is based on fact. And this isn’t a conspiracy of the medical world. Just like the medical world discourages people from smoking and over-eating, or it encourages exercise and other beneficial behavior in the most direct campaigning possible (with solid research and studies of why you should follow their advice), so it’s no surprise the medical field hasn’t jumped with agreement on the “let’s purge toxins” bandwagon. If purging toxins from your body could help then physicians would be at the forefront of getting the information out to you (as soon as it was shown to be true). But truth doesn’t always sell products. Oftentimes you’ll get more people’s attention and dollars by promoting fiction-based fear instead.
When it comes to fiction, snake oil salespeople are supreme at quick fixes and euphoria. I love the drink more water example, because if your water intake is greater then what your body needs all you do is go to the bathroom more. Nothing in your body changes, it doesn’t change the status of “toxins” in your body or how dry your skin is. Kids who don’t drink enough water don’t have dry skin because of it. Dry skin for most adults is the result of sun damage, genetics, health issues, certain medications, and their environment, not water intake. Believe me, I wish alleviating dry skin was as easy as increasing water intake!
In terms of skin and the purging of toxins we move into the absurd. At least with routine (not excessive) water intake it helps to stay hydrated and not be thirsty. When it comes to purging toxins from the skin there isn’t a shred of evidence it is even possible, let alone helpful. Yet somehow sucking toxins out of your pores or between skin cells has become a basic part of many women’s attempt to achieve flawless skin. As a result of this flawed belief, detoxifying skin as sold by the cosmetics industry or earnest spa attendants and estheticians and the vitamin/herbal supplement world has become a sizable business.
And exactly what is a toxin? Consult the dictionary and toxin is defined as any poison. So what poison is lurking in your skin needing removal? Again, there is no answer from anyone in any corner of the alternative cosmetic or herbal world. What you may hear are more general, vague terms such as bacteria, airborne pollutant particulates from cars and city life, bad fats (this is a big lie in cellulite treatments), faulty lymph systems that build up who knows what, even fast food and secondhand smoke requires purging in this part of the cosmetic industry. Listening to all of this is enough to make some people want to live in a sterilized, airtight bubble for the sake of whole body purity, but there’s no need to take such a drastic step.
What isn’t ever explained is exactly what is being eliminated when so-called toxins are being purged? No one has measured how much of whatever stuff is supposedly being removed during the process of cleansing. The reason that no one is doing such testing is because consumers don’t need facts to make decisions about their skin, so we end up with a big myth that is good for business but not you.
Without ever doing even basic testing, the people selling these detoxifying skin-care products or treatments leave it up to their imagination and they are adept at creating imaginary, unspecified toxins that are causing wrinkles, open pores, oily skin—you name the skin care complaint—and purging the skin is supposed to help. That expensive spa treatment wrapping your body in herbs, salts, fragrant oils, clay, or minerals might feel good and for a short time make your skin feel smooth, but in reality no skin condition has changed: your wrinkles haven’t gone away, your cellulite is still there, your pores haven’t changed, yet your pocketbook is lighter (now that’s what I call purging).
Many of these products claiming to detox the system, at least as far as the cosmetics industry and spa world is concerned, are fairly benign and do little, if any, harm. Overheating the body with saunas, Jacuzzis, and facial steaming can cause more problems than they help by damaging the skin’s ability to hold moisture, causing capillaries to surface, and increasing oil production. Putting fragranced salts into your bath can irritate the vaginal skin lining. Not good news but not terrible. Mostly it is just a waste of money and following myths isn’t a recipe for good skin care.
What has me concerned is some research I saw on really dangerous snake oil treatments as reported on a blog/podcast site at http://skeptoid.com, which had several posts written by Brian Dunning, a computer scientist who debunks pseudoscience reports as a hobby (I confirmed that the content is accurate and all quoted material below is from the author’s blog)
Mucoid plaque is supposedly a toxin naturopaths and herbal charlatans say everyone has growing inside their bowels; in fact they are created by the pill sold to purge them. In other words, the supposed cure is causing the problem making people assume the malady is real.
What you get to cure mucoid plaque is “…a bowel cleansing pill, said to be herbal, which causes your intestines to produce long, rubbery, hideous looking snakes of bowel movements, which they call mucoid plaque. There are lots of pictures of these on the Internet, and sites that sell these pills are a great place to find them. Look at www.DrNatura.com, www.BlessedHerbs.com, and www.AriseAndShine.com, just for a start.”
“Imagine how terrifying it would be to actually see one of those come out of your body. If you did, it would sure seem to confirm everything these web sites have warned about toxins building up in your intestines. But there’s more to it. As it turns out, any professional con artist would be thoroughly impressed to learn the secrets of mucoid plaque (and, incidentally, the term mucoid plaque was invented by these sellers; there is no such actual medical condition). These pills consist mainly of bentonite, an absorbent, expanding clay similar to what composes many types of kitty litter. Combined with psyllium, used in the production of mucilage polymer, bentonite forms a rubbery cast of your intestines when taken internally, mixed of course with whatever else your body is excreting. Surprise, a giant rubbery snake of toxins in your toilet.”
“It’s important to note that the only recorded instances of these “mucoid plaque” snakes in all of medical history come from the toilets of the victims of these cleansing pills. No gastroenterologist has ever encountered one in tens of millions of endoscopies, and no pathologist has ever found one during an autopsy. They do not exist until you take such a pill to form them. The pill creates the very condition that it claims to cure. And the results are so graphic and impressive that no victim would ever think to argue with the claim.”
Another detoxing gimmick I came across is from the electrical foot bath products on the market. “The idea is that you stick your feet in the bath of salt water, usually with some herbal or homeopathic additive, plug it in and switch it on, and soak your feet. After a while the water turns a sickly brown, and this is claimed to be the toxins that have been drawn out of your body through your feet. One tester found that his water turned brown even when he did not put his feet in. The reason is that electrodes in the water corrode via electrolysis, putting enough oxidized iron into the water to turn it brown. When reporter Ben Goldacre published these results in the Guardian Unlimited online news, some of the marketers of these products actually changed their messaging to admit this was happening — but again, staying one step ahead — now claim that their product is not about detoxification, it’s about balancing the body’s energy fields: Another meaningless, untestable claim.”
“But detoxifying through the feet didn’t end there. A newcomer to the detoxification market is Kinoki foot pads, available at BuyKinoki.com and many drugstores. These are adhesive gauze patches that you stick to the sole of your foot at night, and they claim to ‘draw toxins’ from your body. They also claim that all Japanese people have perfect health, and the reason is that they use Kinoki foot pads to detoxify their bodies, a secret they’ve been jealously guarding from medical science for hundreds of years. A foolish claim like this is demonstrably false on every level, and should raise a huge red flag to any critical reader. Nowhere in any of their marketing materials do they say what these alleged toxins are, or what mechanism might cause them to move from your body into the adhesive pad.”
“Kinoki foot pads contain unpublished amounts of vinegar, tourmaline, chitin, and other unspecified ingredients. Tourmaline is a semi-precious gemstone that’s inert and not biologically reactive, so it has no plausible function. Chitin is a type of polymer used in gauze bandages and medical sutures, so naturally it’s part of any gauze product. They probably mention it because some alternative practitioners believe that chitin is a ‘fat attractor’, a pseudoscientific claim which has never been supported by any evidence or plausible hypothesis. I guess they hope that we will infer by extension that chitin also attracts ‘toxins’ out of the body. Basically the Kinoki foot pads are gauze bandages with vinegar. Vinegar has many folk-wisdom uses when applied topically, such as treating acne, sunburn, warts, dandruff, and as a folk antibiotic. But one should use caution: Vinegar can cause chemical burns on infants, and the American Dietetic Association has tracked cases of home vinegar applications to the foot causing deep skin ulcers after only two hours.”
“Since the Kinoki foot pads are self-adhesive, peeling them away removes the outermost layer of dead skin cells. And since they are moist, they loosen additional dead cells when left on for a while. So it’s a given that the pads will look brown when peeled from your foot, exactly like any adhesive tape would; though this effect is much less dramatic than depicted on the TV commercials, depending on how dirty your feet are. And, as they predict, this color will diminish over subsequent applications, as fewer and fewer of your dead, dirty skin cells remain. There is no magic detoxification needed to explain this effect.”
What remains indisputably true is that the country of Japan is not selling these toxin-purging foot pads like hotcakes, everyone is not using them, and the Japanese have health problems like any population.
I’ll end this article by coming full circle back to skin care. Trying to eliminate wrinkles and other skin woes with false hopes that involve throwing your money down the toilet on products that can’t help doesn’t really make sense. When there are brilliant things you can do your skin, wasting money isn’t the way to go. Purging yourself of the myths the industry loves instigating and perpetuating and learning what you really should do instead is the best way to take care of your skin.
Paula Begoun, aka the Cosmetics Cop is the author and publisher of seven best-selling books on the beauty industry, including Don’t Go to the Cosmetics Counter Without Me 7th Edition, Blue Eyeshadow Should Be Illegal, The Beauty Bible 2nd Edition, and Don’t Go Shopping for Hair-Care Products Without Me. She has sold more than 2.5 million copies of her books and is also a syndicated columnist, with her “Dear Paula” column appearing in papers throughout North America. Her work as a nationally-recognized consumer expert for the cosmetics industry has led to repeat appearances on CNN, as well as programs such as Oprah, The Today Show, 20/20, Dateline NBC, The View, and Primetime.
Well-known for her extensive knowledge of the cosmetics industry, she is a respected resource amongst professionals in a variety of fields impacting the world of skin care. Over the years Paula has been and remains a consultant for dermatologists, plastic surgeons, major cosmetics companies, and industry insiders.
Women, Beauty, and Competition
24 Nov 2008 Leave a Comment
in Beauty, Culture Tags: Beauty, jealousy, women
Guess what, Goddesses! There’s plenty of pretty to go around. I was honored this weekend and in the past few weeks of being in contact with some of my closest women friends. They are all beautiful. The other day I began to wonder why it is that so many other women are not so lucky to have many true female friends. Why is there some kind of jealousy and competition among Goddesses? Why are some women so intimidated by other women who are gorgeous and so engage in silly catty behavior towards one another? I don’t really know, so you’ll have to go ask Dr. Phil or somebody.
What I do know is that when I am going to meet some of my women friends I take extra steps to look nice. I make sure I have on a nice outfit and throw on a little makeup. I make sure my lips are shiny and my lashes are long and luscious. But my intention is not to upstage my friends. My purpose is to be pretty for them to look at. Let’s just face it. I am straight. I love men. But women are prettier. We have more variety to our looks. You don’t have to be a lesbian to appreciate a stunning face and a fabulous outfit. How do I know this?
Well, a few years ago I met this woman on a listserv. We are both mothers and had a lot in common.
At the time a lot of my women friends had gone away or taken on other interests. Being a mom can sometimes be lonely so I reached out to connect with someone who likes to have fun, with a little sidekick in tow.
When it was finally arranged for us to meet face to face, I got all pretty and went to meet her for coffee. When I got there I was disappointed. She had not made any effort to look cute for me. She had on stained sloppy clothes and carried a raggedy-ass bag and her face could certainly use a little paint. But I didn’t judge her. We had a nice conversation that afternoon.
The next time I met her I secretly hoped she probably didn’t know what to expect the first time we met but this time she would have herself together. She did not. I couldn’t help but to feel a little slighted, as though I wasn’t important enough for her to try to look her best. Or at least presentable. I wanted to see her beauty. Yes, she had her natural beauty and while I really didn’t expect her to present like a supermodel, because I certainly never do, I felt uncomfortable and taken for granted, kind of like the husband of 5 years whose wifey consistently looks a hot mess when he comes home from work in the afternoon.
I am still friends with the woman but we have gone in different directions for reasons unrelated to appearance. Whenever I see or talk to her I try to encourage her and let her know that she is beautiful and that she should not be ashamed to coax it out into the open. Nevertheless, I suppose she has her reasons for being the way she is and I accept that.
When I meet up with my friends who take steps to look pretty I feel pretty. Beauty is not a scarce resource to be coveted and fought for, it is abundant and unlimited. Some of my friends are far more beautiful than I am. So what? I don’t wish they were ugly so I could look better. I want to admire them while I sip my tea and giggle about life.

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