Do Goddesses Tweet?

I’ve been doing some routine research on online business marketing tools for LifeBliss Solutions as business people periodically do.  Twitter keeps popping up.  I have come so close to signing up for an account just to see how this thing works.  Each time I stop just short of putting my name in the box by the notion that there is something inherently amiss with the whole idea that I would give a rat’s ass about what anybody does every moment of the day.  I just don’t.  I am sure I would not “follow” anyone.  Equally amiss would be that I am so narcissistic as to believe anybody in the world wants to latch on to my ass and follow me around for 24 hours of my day, every day.  To me this tool seems like something for a bunch of weak losers with low self esteem who need constant reassurance that they are [fill in the blank with worthy, interesting, cool, fabulous, etc.], celebrity groupies, and teenagers.

Who has time to tweet or have their ass twiggled by some random strangers all day long if they are busy living life?  You can miss so much of the moment if you are fumbling around with some electronic gadget instead of absorbing all the stimulus in the present moment.  And please, nobody write to me claiming that they are “multi-taskers”.  Multi-tasking always diminishes the full experience of the moment, PERIOD.  When your eyes are focused on a little bitty screen then the beautiful scenery around you is nothing but a sideshow in peripheral vision.  While your fingers are busy tippy-tapping on a keyboard, they can not be running through your lover’s hair.

I don’t want to tweet.

8:00 am – I am late, scurrying to the shower

8:01 am – Damn, there’s a pimple on my cheek

8:06 am – Wait, I’ve got to take a crap

8:18 am – Where’s my sock?

8:50 am – Should I have a smoothie or a latte?

WTF!!!!?????????  This seems excrutiatingly trite, irritating, and tedious!

I came so close to being converted when I read stories of people increasing web page traffic exponentially with Twitter.  So I took another look and read some techie articles to educate myself because boy, would I love to have a million viewers a day to my site.  But the idea as I interpret it has been that as a business you can spy on your competitors, which does not appeal to me because my services are so unique and because when you are working from a philosophy of plentitude rather than scarcity it just seems like a waste of my time.  I also learned that I can spam my followers to death.  Well, Goddesses and potential Goddesses abhor spam, and they are so intelligent that they can spot it a mile away and surely would not encourage spam abuse by spending money on spammer’s products and services.   Let’s face it:  My name is not Willie Loman and I don’t sell widgets.  I don’t have suppliers and secret proprietary potions.  LifeBliss Solutions is what it is and that’s that.

The last thing I learned is that Twitter is a great tool for networking with both potential clients and peers and generates word of mouth promotion.  Hmm, sounds good, ethical, and not unhealthy to me and holds some promise.  Which brings me to the key question:  Do Goddesses tweet?  Goddesses don’t need to tweet, the same way that we don’t need to wear t-shirts that say “Goddess” on the front. Goddesses are busy, self-assured, taking disposable time to enjoy the present moment i.e. smelling flowers, dancing, riding a bike, reading a book, laughing, admiring art, savoring chocolates, connecting with real interesting humans in real life…etc.  Why would a Goddess tweet, when she does not need others to validate her existence?  Pray, tell me this so I can confirm once and for all that besides the fact that I won’t like it, that there’s no logical economic reason for me to tweet.  I probably will not tweet but I just want to have all the information before I make the final decision.

HISTORY NOW!!!!

We are on our way down to the National Mall to be a part of history today on this dawn of the inauguration of the 44th president of the United States of America. We are going to find out what all the visitors are thinking. Stay tuned, we’ll be back with photos and words.

Excitement is REALLY building here in Washington DC! People are wandering all around the streets wearing Barack Obama gear now, just after midnight! My aunts are spending the night on the National Mall, and we’ll join them at 4 or 5 am ready to PAR-TAY!!!!!!! Stay tuned for more updates.

Women, Beauty, and Competition

Guess what, Goddesses! There’s plenty of pretty to go around. I was honored this weekend and in the past few weeks of being in contact with some of my closest women friends. They are all beautiful. The other day I began to wonder why it is that so many other women are not so lucky to have many true female friends. Why is there some kind of jealousy and competition  among Goddesses? Why are some women so intimidated by other women who are gorgeous and so engage in silly catty behavior towards one another? I don’t really know, so you’ll have to go ask Dr. Phil or somebody.

What I do know is that when I am going to meet some of my women friends I take extra steps to look nice. I make sure I have on a nice outfit and throw on a little makeup. I make sure my lips are shiny and my lashes are long and luscious. But my intention is not to upstage my friends. My purpose is to be pretty for them to look at. Let’s just face it. I am straight. I love men. But women are prettier. We have more variety to our looks. You don’t have to be a lesbian to appreciate a stunning face and a fabulous outfit. How do I know this?

Well, a few years ago I met this woman on a listserv. We are both mothers and had a lot in common. At the time a lot of my women friends had gone away or taken on other interests. Being a mom can sometimes be lonely so I reached out to connect with someone who likes to have fun, with a little sidekick in tow.

When it was finally arranged for us to meet face to face, I got all pretty and went to meet her for coffee. When I got there I was disappointed. She had not made any effort to look cute for me. She had on stained sloppy clothes and carried a raggedy-ass bag and her face could certainly use a little paint. But I didn’t judge her. We had a nice conversation that afternoon.

The next time I met her I secretly hoped she probably didn’t know what to expect the first time we met but this time she would have herself together. She did not. I couldn’t help but to feel a little slighted, as though I wasn’t important enough for her to try to look her best. Or at least presentable. I wanted to see her beauty. Yes, she had her natural beauty and while I really didn’t expect her to present like a supermodel, because I certainly never do, I felt uncomfortable and taken for granted, kind of like the husband of 5 years whose wifey consistently looks a hot mess when he comes home from work in the afternoon.

I am still friends with the woman but we have gone in different directions for reasons unrelated to appearance.  Whenever I see or talk to her I try to encourage her and let her know that she is beautiful and that she should not be ashamed to coax it out into the open.  Nevertheless, I suppose she has her reasons for being the way she is and I accept that.

When I meet up with my friends who take steps to look pretty I feel pretty. Beauty is not a scarce resource to be coveted and fought for, it is abundant and unlimited.  Some of my friends are far more beautiful than I am. So what? I don’t wish they were ugly so I could look better. I want to admire them while I sip my tea and giggle about life.

Change in America: What does it really mean?

It’s been a couple of weeks for us to have it sink in. We now have a young, smart, black man as the president elect. I honestly do not think that before November 4, 2008 the last time we as Americans collectively shed so many tears was September 11, 2001. But back then it was fear, pain, and despair. This time is was joy, pride, and HOPE.

So what now? What will be different in OUR everyday lives? It means different things for different people.

To our friends in other countries it means that America may not be the pathetic, ignorant, behind the times society trapped in vestiges of the bad old days when white people believed brown skin was a badge of intrinsic inferiority. The fact that only about 13% of our population is black but that Barack Obama won the presidential election by a large margin means that there were a lot of white people here judging Obama by the content of his character rather than the color of his skin. That or they were sick of Republican rule. Either way, this election result could not have occurred if the majority of Americans held on to the old prejudices of the past. Some of my modern European friends could not even understand the concept of skin color being any sort of indicator of any person’s intelligence, ability, or worth. They are hopeful that America is emerging from the dark ages and is now more socially sophisticated than they thought.

For America as a whole this election means that we have turned a page in our turbulent racial history. Although race relations in this country could still use a lot more improvement, the few isolated white people who have never personally knew a smart, capable, and ethical black person will be exposed on a regular basis now to such a person front and center, in the White House. When the leader of the free world (when the United States again becomes a world leader rather than bully) is a black man, somehow the n-word loses loses much of its intensity. Derogatory terms generally have more power when the intended is already disempowered. Who cares what a bunch of toothless backwards people call you if you know you can do better if you choose to?

For young black people having Obama as the president must end the era of pity and blame. No longer can people choose mediocrity and blame their failures on racism, economics, or family structure. Our men will soon discover that there are more options in life than becoming a sports star or rap artist. The nerdy ones can feel free to pursue their true interests and to excel in them without feeling the need to conform to the stereotypical habits of their peers.

Just because we have a black president-elect does not mean that everything is going to be just rosy. But where there is hope, there is possibility.

I’m a Fatty: Heathy, Happy, Juicy and Delicious

This is not another rah-rah fat acceptance article to convince the morbidly obese, sedentary, extreme eaters that they are somehow sexy, healthy, and fabulous. At the beach this week I noticed I have put on a few pounds since last year. My tummy protrudes disproportionately (and always has) from the rest of my body.

Juicy Photo by Charisse Williams

It gets much worse when I gain a little extra fat. Genetics plays a role in the shape of my body, but is not the whole story.

A person’s size and shape is a result of a very complex formula that includes genetics, activity level, types and variety of activities done, quantity of food, quality of food, proportional balance of daily protein/carbohydrate/fat intake, hormones, age, gender, and overall health, to name a few factors. This is why the one size fits all weight plans don’t fit most, and why the range of ideal body shapes and sizes is actually very broad. We in the West are under the false belief that if we eat right and exercise that we would all be size 2, when in reality people who eat right and exercise can be a size 2 or size 20 and everywhere in between. The actual numbers her are based on my own unscientific assumption, only to be used as an example, not to be taken as a literal fact, but I’m sure you get the idea.

I am a professional dancer who performs once and teaches twice a week. I work out at the gym 4-5 times per week. I walk or ride my bike to the store often and my friends consider me a high energy person. I live in a 3-story house and run up and down the stairs many times a day. I know others with similar activity levels to mine who are skinny as a rail, which, btw, I honestly prefer not to be.

I am not an emotional eater, who dashes a candy bar in times of daily stress, nor am I a high-fat processed food junkie who eats from a fast food restaurant at least once a week. I love whole, unprocessed foods like fresh fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. I am no vegan or vegetarian and although I care about what I put into my body, I have no food restrictions. Although I don’t always eat in moderation, I never binge. I love food. I eat.

I am plump and juicy like a ripe grape in the summertime and not a miserable emaciated stick figure with sunken cheeks because I am a happy person who has fun. I am probably a little fatter than my ideal because I veered off my normal habits a bit recently. But there is no need for me to fret about it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, but just to get back on track and everything will fall into place. Thank goodness I am not paid as a supermodel or a famous actress to perpetuate women’s self loathing and to maintain standardized image that some woman spend their lives trying to imitate, because I would be under constant stress of being fired! I am paid to help people bring joy and happiness into their lives so I just look the way I happen to look by taking care of my health and enjoying life. Looking good is important to me, but equally so is feeling good and living well.

What is your ideal weight, size, shape, look? Here is the formula:

• Have some fun every day

• Don’t eat anything you don’t like

• Eat the rainbow (colorful fruits and vegetables) every day

• Generally eat real, whole, unprocessed foods

• If you love a fatty, sugar, processed junk food, don’t deprive yourself. Eat it every now and then.

• Be active in other ways than deliberate exercise (like a rat in a wheel)–dance, bike, play rope, skate, goof off with your kids

• Make sure that the amount of attention you pay to body image is equal to the amount of attention you dedicate developing your brilliant mind; having fun; enhancing skin, hair, tooth, and nail health and beauty; and being prosperous.

If you consciously and consistently do these things for several months, the exact number of months depending on how close to or far from your ideal body size and shape you are when you start, you will wind up at your ideal size and shape. If you do this and never become (notice I did not say “achieve”) size 2, then join the other 97% of us and be happy.

Forget Sex-Positive, Be Sex Neutral

Why must we controversialize everything? I’m just having my morning fruit and yogurt parfait while I read a few blogs this morning and started running across these declarations of “sex positiveness”. Why? If the site is about the joys of sex then we obviously know that it is sex-positive. However, if the site about something like, oh, fat acceptance, then what difference does it make? There is no need be a sex maniac or a prude. I noticed that some peoples’ idea of sex-positive is all freaky, all the time! Beware! That is just yet another smokescreen for and extreme form of our culture’s hypersexualization of everything. Perhaps that is what it should be. For the rest of us ordinary folks who love sensual pleasures in all forms, including but not limited to sex, sex-neutral is more accurate.

In an article for Planned Parenthood on providing sex positive sex education, Lisa Tobin writes that being sex positive includes:

• Having a comprehensive definition of sexuality
• Viewing sexual health as a basic human right
• Focusing on the life-enhancing aspects of sexuality as well as attention to the negative aspects
• Being non-judgmental and challenging narrow social constructs
• Using inclusive language rather than value-laden language which makes assumptions based on sexual orientation or gender stereotypes
• Assisting individuals to be aware of the choices involved in sexual decisions

Sounds pretty neutral to me. Anyway, I am sex neutral. That means all of the above plus I don’t really care whether someone is homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual, transgender, curious, fat and sexy, skinny and sexy, or whatever because it’s not the main idea. Sex neutral just means that there will be no promotion nor condemnation of sexuality. It also means that we treat sexuality like any other thing, without special emphasis. Society at large would be a lot healthier if we all took the sex-neutral approach, especially when it comes to raising our children. Simply by using the proper terms for genitalia, not getting all excited when anything regarding sexuality is mentioned, and without being inappropriate, talking about sex just as ordinarily as we do any other aspect of human life. Just relax already!

Weekly Food Consumption around the World

This article about the weekly food consumption of families worldwide was forwarded to me. I don’t know where it came from so I can not account for its accuracy. It does not reveal whether the cost of food is actual cost or relative, and it does not seem as though the families are closely comparable socially or by size, however it is extremely interesting.

As a foodie I find it particularly disturbing that the only fresh green thing the American family had was a handful of grapes! In my opinion, the Egyptian family had the best (both healthy and delicious) diet, though I think the Polish family’s diet is the most similar to, though not exactly like my family’s.

What is eaten in one week around the world

Take a good look at the family size & diet of each country, and the availability & cost of what is eaten in one week. Interesting that at the lower levels of income the highly processed and high fat foods that contribute to obesity pretty much disappear.

Germany: The Melander family of Bargteheide
Food expenditure for one week: 375.39 Euros or $500.07

Italy: The Manzo family of Sicily
Food expenditure for one week: 214.36 Euros or $260.11

United States: The Revis family of North Carolina
Food expenditure for one week $341.98

Mexico: The Casales family of Cuernavaca
Food expenditure for one week: 1,862.78 Mexican Pesos or $189.09

Poland: The Sobczynscy family of Konstancin-Jeziorna
Food expenditure for one week: 582.48 Zlotys or $151.27

Egypt: The Ahmed family of Cairo
Food expenditure for one week: 387.85 Egyptian Pounds or $68.53

Ecuador: The Ayme family of Tingo
Food expenditure for one week: $31.55

Bhutan: The Namgay family of Shingkhey Village
Food expenditure for one week: 224.93 ngultrum or $5.03


Chad: The Aboubakar family of Breidjing Camp
Food expenditure for one week: 685 CFA Francs or $1.23

Female Sexual Expression or Cliche Stereotypes?

Do you know the difference?

It is such a shame when women claim that they are so free to express their sexuality, are in reality just imitating someone else’s (usually a man’s) idea of what they think female sexuality should be. I would never tell anyone whether or not they are being authentic in their expression of their own sexuality, but the range of sexual expression is at least as broad as the range of human emotional expression, and maybe broader. But the range of most commonly what we see being portrayed as sexual expression is extremely limited and narrow as unsophisticated, silly little sex kitten-like behavior, which makes its authenticity highly suspect. Behaving in a stereotypical sexy female way is not harmful, as long as the actor has acknowledges it as such. It can be fun to behave like an airhead porn star–if that floats your boat, as long as you don’t take it on as your personality (if you are not indeed a genuine airhead porn star).

I was inspired to think about this topic by a CNN video clip I saw this morning, “Video Vixens too Revealing?

Women are so complex, therefore naturally female sexual expression is as well when it is genuine and emanates from deep within. But when women put themselves out there as only superficially sexy, and nothing else, the result is just a facade of sexual liberation, and it does not serve a woman’s interests at all. For starters, living a lie always eventually ends in unhappiness, because she is not honoring her self and her needs. She may become lost in her show, losing her grip on reality. Instead of meaningful relationships, she will experience the most shallow and flippant form of attention from males with short attention spans. Many, many men can see past cliche stereotypes and greatly appreciate a woman’s genuine sensual, sexual, feminine expression. Even others find it extremely attractive but can’t put a finger on exactly what it is they are attracted to. Female sexuality is vastly unlimited. It can be mysterious, breezy, shy, bold, ethereal, playful, aggressive, exotic, plain, elegant, graceful, butch, innocent, goofy, etc., and the list could go on for days. That sexuality can be expressed though a woman’s gait, voice, gestures, facial expressions, fashion, language, emotions, creativity, or any combination of these plus more.

Sexual expression is highly individual and unique, and therefore can include, but can not possibly be limited to writhing and gyrating, with mouths permanently stuck in a position to give cunnilingus at any second, conveying an overt message of submissive inferiority and desperation to be had sexually in the current moment! Female sexual expression can not possibly only consist of visuals of solely breasts and asses, because there is a whole body and mind to work with. As a tantra yoga instructor and feminist, I am certainly not a prude. Sexy is good, even if it is trashy sometimes, but that’s not all! I work with women to help them to look far beyond the confusion created by male media exploitation of female sexuality for profit to embrace their own healthy individual sexuality, in all its glorious diversity.

We should reclaim our sexual identity from simplified, superficial cliches. The first step is to be able to identify our own pleasure, and to simply distinguish it from the pleasure that is derived from pleasuring others. Of course I am not suggesting that we take on a selfish, every person for themselves attitude when it comes to sex. I am suggesting that you know how to experience a fair give and take in a sexual relationship, instead of exclusively pleasuring a partner, and thereby only getting a secondary, incidental pleasure for yourself. Ask yourself, what actually pleases ME?

Secondly, try not to define your sexual expression using someone or something else as your frame of reference. Just BE, which brings us all the way back to carefree sensuality. Broaden your sexually expressive horizons! It is not always necessary to overtly put sex on display to express your sexuality, because your sexual self is actually not separate from the rest of your self. Give up posing for others or imitating anyone. Don’t compare yourself to other women. Forget putting on the usual acts–talking in a babyish voice, walking with tiny steps with the feet in turnout like a two-year-old in a diaper, pretending to be unintelligent, or moving like a robot programmed to look sexy. Relax into your own sensual world and just be a part of it, without putting forth any effort at all and choose to allow your real self to show.

How to be More Feminine

By Linda Markley

Unhappy medium

The feminine principle has been suppressed for millennia. In recent decades, we have also learnt to suppress the masculine and relate in a safe, neutral way. Relating in a neutral way is expedient for all of us at times, but part of the richness of life and opportunity of this time, is for all of us to develop a wider spectrum of strengths and choices, and dance more freely with others, especially in intimate relationships. To dance we have to be willing to be and express something other than neutral. In doing so, we help others express more of themselves. In particular, when we are more feminine, we leave space for others to be more masculine.

How to be more feminine

1. Please ourselves – Women have been conditioned for many generations to get and keep a man. Even in these enlightened, liberated times, studies show that women who are not in relationship are less confident about their appearance than women who are in relationships. This feminine obsessions with being wanted, loved, attractive and in relationship can get in our way.

When we are feminine for our own sakes, we do not feed these obsessions or attempt to manipulate others, which is something women learn to do when they have no direct access to power. When we pay most attention to how we feel, rather than to the response of other, we own our own power and are authentic.

2. Explore, experiment, create, express – To please ourselves, we have each to explore what being feminine means to us and what helps us to feel feminine, and to enjoy and express the many different aspects of our femininity. This might include exploring creative outlets such as art, writing, music or dance, or creating a home or garden, or connecting with children, nature, the earth, sea, women, men, intuition …

3. Reclaim choice – To change deeply entrenched habits, we need to be aware of our liking for what is familiar and, hence, comfortable. For many of us, that includes responding in a neutral or masculine way. Only when we are aware of doing so, do we have real choice.

4. Connect and flow with life – The power of the feminine comes from connecting and co-operating. This is usually seen as co-operating with others but it can also apply to flowing with life and change. The feminine, which is associated with intuition and feelings, is well placed to do this, provided we own our feelings rather than resist them or dump them on others.

5. Connect with others (in an isolating culture) – The feminine is associated with and, to some extent, discovered through, connection and co-operation with others. Now that we are all so busy and many of us are somewhat isolated, this can be challenging.

A resource which is useful for this and for learning to flow with life is improvisation, in dance and in theatrical games. Look out for theatrical or comedy improvisation, Action Theatre, Five rhythms, The Wave, contact improvisation, Biodanza.

6. Connect with our bodies – While the masculine has a narrow, mental focus, the feminine has a broader view which includes our bodies, sensuality, feelings, hearts and all life. There are many forms of movement that are useful for connecting with our bodies. Some of these, such as sacred movement and dance, also help us to connect at other levels.

Look out for belly dance, which connects us with our bodies, sensuality and femininity. The emphasis is not on body shape but on using and enjoying what we have. That said, dancing in front of huge mirrors can be challenging but meeting that challenge helps us get over our obsession with having ‘perfect’ bodies and come to terms with what we actually look like, which is extremely liberating. There is also growing movement of dance which fuses the dance of different traditions. This is particularly useful for experiencing different aspects of the feminine (like the proud, earthiness of tribal dance; fiery flamenco, softer Indian dance). Look out for tribal fusion or ATS classes.

7. Open – The more we inhabit our bodies, the more we open, which allows us to feel more feminine.

One aspect of this is sharing ourselves. In 2007, a study revealed that, contrary to popular myths, men talk just as much as women. It does seem to be true that women talk more about people however. This can descend to gossip, or we can help others to share themselves and connect with others in a fuller, deeper and more meaningful way.

8. Praise – “The feminine grows through praise” David Deida.

According to Deida, the masculine grows through challenge and the feminine through praise, at least in part because praise helps us to open. Deida does not however, tell us how to meet the challenge (in the UK, at least) of getting praise! The best answer I’ve come up with is to praise myself freely and often, and to notice signs of approval in the responses of others (like being more open with me, giving me their time, attention or a smile).

9. Take great care of yourself – When we are nurtured and ‘loved up’, we are softer, more open and feminine. The feminine is the great nurturer, so lets love and pamper ourselves. This includes choosing the company we keep with care and ensuring we always have the support we need. When we take great care of ourselves we can keep our hearts open.

10. Clothes, hair and energy – I was tempted to call this section ‘appearance’ but there is much more to it than that. Clothes, fabrics, colours and even styles, all have an energy and affect how we feel (confident, happy, sexy, attractive etc.). Very often, it is this feeling that attracts people’s attention, rather than the outward change, which brings us back to pleasing ourselves.

11. Love, relationships and heart wisdom – Despite the feminine obsession with love and intimate relationships, most divorces are initiated by women. The love, intimacy and deeper heart felt connections we long for are only possible when we drop down into our hearts and risk keeping our hearts open. When we do so, those around us naturally drop down into their own hearts, and open more, deepening their connection with themselves and their heart’s wisdom, their environment and with us. This is the gift of the feminine, a gift the world sorely needs.

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Lisa teaches the Tantric Art of Bellydance on Thursday evenings on Capitol Hill, Washington DC. The focus is on how to dance from the heart and love your body. Get in touch with your sensual spirit through the joy of authentic Middle Eastern dance technique and your own divine feminine power. To sign up or for more information see: Bellydance

Tasteful Women’s Erotica on Passion Fruit

I used to write erotica. It’s all lost now with my busted desktop computer. I didn’t publish it, I only wrote it for fun until my husband discovered it and enjoyed it himself. I didn’t write the rough and trashy stuff or pornography. It was simply sexy short stories.

My view is that sexuality is a normal and healthy part of human life. I don’t view it as sinful or dirty, as long as willing grown-up participants are involved. I do not however, think it is entirely appropriate to expose young people to all of the aspects and intimate details of sexuality before they are ready. All they need to know is that sexual activity is not taboo, and that it is shared by adults in a respectful manner who appreciate all the possible risks involved. It is important that as goddesses we learn to accept our sexuality and not allow anyone to steer or exploit it. It belongs to us and we have the right to enjoy it. Our bodies are our temples, we can bring pleasure to them.

Now for us grown and sexy people, sexy stuff is just plain fun! It’s juicy, and it is stimulating to the mind and the senses. Some of my favorite classical literature involves scandalous women. Have you ever read Moll Flanders by DeFoe? I couldn’t put it down!

Now that I have a publishing outlet I am thinking of writing and sharing some of my erotica here with my fellow goddesses. Don’t worry, Passion Fruit will not turn into a sex blog. I just think that every once in a while I can throw in a short story here and there. I don’t include explicit images though, I leave that up to you to create in your own mind.

Do tell me what you think about this idea. Would you like to read some of my scrumptious tales? Do you think it would be a spectacular addition to this blog? This is one of the very rare occasions that I actually give a rat’s ass about what someone else thinks.  Ok well, maybe not so much, really…I’m just curious.

So take advantage and PLEASE COMMENT.