Disappointment at No New Posts on my Favorite Blogs…Hmmm

I love reading blogs. I use Google Reader and when I am bored and go there for a literary snack I feel sad that my favorite blogs haven’t had new post in a few weeks, or a few days. I even got sucked into a few articles while logging in to Passionfruit just now. So I just realized, uh-oh I haven’t published in…

I’m not making any more promises but let’s just say, I’m aware.


I’m not a dog person?

There are two kinds of people in the world. Dog people and Cat people. I am definitely NOT the latter! When asked I’ve always thrown myself into the dog box, no hesitation, until…I got a dog.

Now growing up my family always had dogs, and I always loved them. And we didn’t have little toy anything, when I say we had dogs, I mean we had DOGS! Great big ones! The bigger the better, so I never grew up afraid to be around large dogs, or made uneasy by them. None of that has changed in my adulthood. I still like my dogs big and intimidating. What’s changed since my childhood are the laws in which dogs must be maintained nowadays.

I grew up in the south so granted the weather was pretty moderate. No reason a dog shouldn’t make it out the house every day down there no matter the breed. However when caring for a big dog in the south the norm would be to keep the sucker tied to the biggest tree in the back yard (with enough chain or rope of course to allow him to freely roam his domain). We seldom walked the dogs, as they spent everyday outside, rain or shine.

The typical backyard setup was as follows: dog, chain, tree, doghouse, food dish, bucket of water. In the small town I grew up in that was all you needed to care for a dog, and from what I remember they (the dogs) were generally very happy. Of all the dogs we had…I never remember a single one, stepping foot into the house.

Fast forward into my adulthood. I’m 29, newly divorced, and desperately trying to prove to our children that I’m the cooler more fun parent to be with. I promised my son that when Mommy bought a house he could have a dog. Four months after closing, Muscogee enters our lives. Chocolate brown, vanilla frosted, and adorable. He won our hearts right away.

Now, puppies are like little children, I hear this all the time now, but no one was saying that before I got the dang dog! I could have easily figured out that this wasn’t for me if someone had taken the time to break that one simple little truth down to me ahead of time. I had two children already and was a new divorcee…why the heck would I want another child at that point?!

I expected a companion, you know, like ‘man’s best friend and all that, what I got was a hundred pound toddler! I was sooo not prepared for it. The crying, the pooping, the peeing, just like  a little baby. The worst  part of it was, I didn’t live in the south anymore. A dog can’t stay outside year round in our climate. Actually it’s getting so that a dog can’t stay outside period, but that’s coming up latter.

There are so many laws governing the treatment of these animals; what an owner can do and what we can’t. Honestly I dont walk my dog in my neighborhood because I refuse to be one of those people walking behind my dog picking up…well…poop! I thought it was ridiculous before I had a dog and having one (and smelling just how bad it is) hasn’t convinced me of anything different. You can’t keep your dog outside if he barks and disturbs your neighbors, even if you explain to them that he just needs to get used to being outside alone. They are even about to  pass a law that says your dog can’t be chained while in the yard. Are you kidding me? Break one of the rules and see how fast a phone call is made and your animal is taken away.

When it comes to my neighborhood I feel like I’m always being watched. I’ve already heard rumors of one neighbor’s plot  to have my dog taken from me because he thought I hadn’t left water in his water dish. Couldn’t be that the dog himself knocked it over, after I had left the house, but none the less, I feel like I have to keep him hidden away. Sometimes I just keep the dog inside to keep the prying eyes off me. And once we do come out, there are those dang rules…that I don’t follow.

“No I didn’t pick up that pound of dog crap he just left…it’s in the grass where it’s supposed to be!.”

“No I don’t brush my dog’s teeth OR send him to the groomers.”

“No, I didn’t put a doggie sweater on him…he’s wearing the coat God gave him today.”

This whole thing is getting unbearable, and my house stinks of dog poop cause the poor guy still isn’t house broken yet. I feel bad cause this isn’t the dog’s fault. I’m the one who wants to stay out all night if the mood suits me. I’m the one who wants to work late and make a little overtime. I’m the one who wants to fill her day as well as her nights with as many activities as possible. Dare I say it? Am I not a dog person?

Recently I have been brought to the conclusion, I am NOT a dog person! I love my Scogee dearly, but I just can not bear sharing my home with an animal. I hate the smell, the extra chore of cleaning up after him, and honestly, I really don’t even enjoy the companionship all that much. When I have a quite moment to myself the last thing I want is a hundred pound puppy (who obviously still thinks he’s twenty pounds) jumping onto my lap trying to get a belly rub outta me.

Why continue then, if I’m so miserable? I do it because I have to, but that only serves to make me that much more resentful and disenchanted. I don’t want to send him to the pound cause there is no guarantee that he won’t be euthanized, which I couldn’t bear. I’ve tried giving him away but no one seems to want him. A used dog is about as useful as a worn out pair of gym shoes, only the gym shoes don’t smell as bad.

Ultimately I think I may be stuck with the old boy. I tell myself that he is a test to my capacity to love and be loved. He didn’t ask to be here. He didn’t ask for me to be his owner. He can’t care for himself. He truly needs me and is depending on my capacity to love. Seems like every time I look into those puppy eyes I melt. There is no question I love him, and one thing’s for sure is he’s got a lot of love to give in return. Perhaps this Goddess is being tested for the patience to care for the needs of her own helpless creation. A test of sacrifice, a test of discipline. I sure hope I don’t fail.

Aset Musheera (Shemeka Hollis) is a DC artist, poet, essayist, mother, sister, student, lover, awesome best-friend, and enthusiastic liver of life. She revels in the journey of the life experience and encourages everyone to explore the inner passions keep tucked away in the vessel we mistake for our identity. She is silly. She is cogent. She is loving. She is present in this experience. She IS. Bless

Wellness, Bellydance, and Sensuality

Please join us for our free Delicious Life Open House on Sunday, January 17,

There will be:
– a bellydance performance,
– sample core bellyjam workout
– sample group coaching session
– gifts and prizes – we will give away a medspa package worth $350

To RSVP or learn more:


Apple Pie Success!

The apple pie was good.  On a scale of 1-10 I would give a 7.75.  The crust was buttery and flaky but may have needed a pinch more of salt.  The filling was good but I used a mixture of granny smith and yellow delicious apples.  The next time I will omit the yellow delicious apples because they just do not have the right texture.  I never liked those anyway.

Cyberwar guide for Iran elections [URGENT pls read & repost] (And I Guess Twitter is Useful for Something)

Cyberwar guide for Iran elections
Posted by Cory Doctorow, June 16, 2009 3:25 AM | permalink
SOURCE: boingboing.net

Yishay sez, “The road to hell is paved with the best intentions (including mine). Learn how to actually help the protesters and not the gov’t in Iran.”

The purpose of this guide is to help you participate constructively in the Iranian election protests through Twitter.

1. Do NOT publicise proxy IP’s over twitter, and especially not using the #iranelection hashtag. Security forces are monitoring this hashtag, and the moment they identify a proxy IP they will block it in Iran. If you are creating new proxies for the Iranian bloggers, DM them to @stopAhmadi or @iran09 and they will distributed them discretely to bloggers in Iran.

2. Hashtags, the only two legitimate hashtags being used by bloggers in Iran are #iranelection and #gr88, other hashtag ideas run the risk of diluting the conversation.

3. Keep you bull$hit filter up! Security forces are now setting up twitter accounts to spread disinformation by posing as Iranian protesters. Please don’t retweet impetuosly, try to confirm information with reliable sources before retweeting. The legitimate sources are not hard to find and follow.

4. Help cover the bloggers: change your twitter settings so that your location is TEHRAN and your time zone is GMT +3.30. Security forces are hunting for bloggers using location and timezone searches. If we all become ‘Iranians’ it becomes much harder to find them.

5. Don’t blow their cover! If you discover a genuine source, please don’t publicise their name or location on a website. These bloggers are in REAL danger. Spread the word discretely through your own networks but don’t signpost them to the security forces. People are dying there, for real, please keep that in mind…

#iranelection cyberwar guide for beginners (Thanks, Yishay!)

* Iran SMS networks “mysteriously” fail right before elections …
* Iran: Activists Launch Hack Attacks on Tehran Regime – Boing Boing
* Iranian election uprising: Twitter tracks it real-time, Iranian …

6. Denial of Service attacks. If you don’t know what you are doing, stay out of this game. Only target those sites the legitimate Iranian bloggers are designating. Be aware that these attacks can have detrimental effects to the network the protesters are relying on. Keep monitoring their traffic to note when you should turn the taps on or off.

7. Do spread the (legitimate) word, it works! When the bloggers asked for twitter maintenance to be postponed using the #nomaintenance tag, it had the desired effect. As long as we spread good information, provide moral support to the protesters, and take our lead from the legitimate bloggers, we can make a constructive contribution.

Please remember that this is about the future of the Iranian people, while it might be exciting to get caught up in the flow of participating in a new meme, do not lose sight of what this is really about.”

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WAKE UP, AMERICA! McCain-Palin Supporters: What the Hell!?

I’ve got questions for you!  How is it possible that at a time when George W. Bush’s approval rating is hovering at 30% overall, and 61% among Republicans, that John McCain could even come close to pulling ahead of Barack Obama in the presidential candidate polls?  I took it upon myself to find the differences between Bush and McCain, not from his opponents, but from him or his supporters.  I found only one solid difference between Bush and McCain:  McCain does not support torture.  That’s it!  Now there were two more differences that he pointed out but they were by no means concrete.  First was that McCain claims that his administration would focus on climate change.  No details on how or what his views are.  The other was that he would be more humble in dealings with foreign affairs and does not support preemptive striking.

As for the economy, McCain says he would drastically reduce federal spending. He says that he will eliminate earmarks such as the bridge to nowhere in Alaska, a Woodstock museum in New York, and a study of bear DNA in Montana.  2008 earmarks added up to 18.3 billion dollars. He also proposes to slash discretionary spending, which is for federal programs.  If this were a good idea, he would give at least one or two examples of the types of programs that will be eliminated.  But there is no mention of them, most likely because the middle class voters would not likely agree with those cuts.  He plans to cut an additional 65 billion dollars from the mysterious “programs”.  Now all of this budget slashing talk is going on while the US is throwing away 100 billion dollars a year in Iraq!  With 100 billion dollars the US could keep its programs and still have money to improve schools and get healthcare for Americans.  Who is against that?  There is so much more.  Here is the actual plan put out by the McCain campaign’s senior economic advisor (not his opposition), read it for yourself: McCain’s Economic Plan

Now in walks Alaska hockey mom of 5, Sarah Palin, Yay!  But wait, who is she, and what does she stand for?  I am not sure but I do know that she may differ on some core issues from most women in our country today.  You know that we would love to see a goddess second in charge in this country.  But is she for or against what you actually believe in, and are you willing to blindly sacrifice the well being of this country and your family just to see her in office?  Having a vagina alone does not make her a good candidate.  Whether or not we believe in abortion for ourselves, most women in this country do on some level support a woman’s right to choose.  Palin supports the criminalization of abortion in all cases except to save the life (not the health) of the woman.  She compares herself to a pit bull.  I don’t think that is a good thing at all.  It sounds too similar to Bush’s blind stubbornness to “stay the course” no matter how wrongheaded the actions are proven to be.  Is that what the country needs at this time? I, as a mother, value the ability to assess situations as they unfold and adjust and sometimes re-adjust my actions accordingly for the best interests of my family.  Learn a little more about her issues here: Sarah on the Issues  On this site you can also look at where John McCain, Barack Obama, and Joseph Biden stand on the issues and take a quiz to compare yours to theirs, not completely scientific but helpful and pretty nifty.

This article is incomplete. I could write all day long on this but I don’t want to.  The bottom line is, please  EDUCATE YOURSELVES ON THE ISSUES!  What issues are important to you, and where the candidates stand on those issues.  Do not vote on race, gender, personality, or how you think candidates “identify with you”.  WAKE UP, AMERICA!